Today we discuss love and why it’s essential for success.


Have you ever felt a little inadequate or less than other people? Do you find yourself always saying yes to the demands of others or allowing their opinions to affect your own happiness? When someone starts to feel this way, it’s as if they’ve lost their voice and sight of what they actually stand for.

Putting all of our focus onto what others think, do, and say can leave us feeling empty and forgetting who we are. What we need to do is start loving our own voice, our own message, our own values, and start to put trust back into our own wisdom. We need to start with learning to love ourselves.

My co-host today, Julie Potiker, is a mindfulness expert, author, and attorney who shares mindfulness techniques with the world through her Mindful Methods for Life trainings. She joins me today to discuss the releasing wounds from the past, the vulnerability it takes to be courageous, and the importance of self-love.

Our guest, Dr. Gary Salyer, is an author and transformational relationship counselor who helps men and women re-write the rules for love in their brains. Through his powerful and effective methodology to make it “Safe to Love Again,” Dr. Salyer helps even those who may have given up hope to have the love that they dream about.

He joins us today to share how we tend to look for the same kind of love that we’ve experienced earlier in life, how this can hurt us, and how we can learn to love and be loved fully.


We Discuss:

  • Becoming conscious of the feelings inside ourselves and learning to truly love ourselves
  • Why courage takes vulnerability and the willingness to release our wounds from the past
  • How we find and keep a lasting relationship despite serial relationships and breakups
  • Why we need to learn how to love ourselves in order to be loved fully by others in return
  • How we use the love that we receive from our early relationships as a reference feeling
  • Changing our love style to one that’s sustainable and reenergizes the state of our relationships
  • Knowing when it’s the pattern and not the partner that’s creating an upset in the relationship


“If you don’t love yourself, you can’t get love from somebody else. You can’t accept it.”  –  Julie Potiker


About Julie:
Headshot of Julie Potiker

Mindfulness expert and author, Julie Potiker, is an attorney who began her serious study and investigation of mindfulness after graduating from the Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction program at the University of California, San Diego.

She went on to become trained to teach Mindful Self-Compassion and completed the Positive Neuroplasticity Training Professional Course.

Now, Julie shares these and other mindfulness techniques with the world through her Mindful Methods for Life trainings, and her new book, Life Falls Apart, But You Don’t Have To: Mindful Methods for Staying Calm In the Midst of Chaos.

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About Dr. Salyer:
Headshot of Dr. Gary Salyer

After Dr. Gary Salyer’s first divorce, he vowed that his next marriage would be different. So when his second marriage crumbled almost a decade later for nearly the same reasons he was devastated. He felt like an utter, complete failure.

But rather than give in, he was determined to find another way.

He committed to not being that guy who bounced from marriage to marriage, never really learning anything. So he dedicated himself to doing the deep research about all things love.

Dr. Salyer read, researched, furthered his education in the field, talked to experts and to people he loved. Most of all he did the deep transformation work that unlocked his heart and released his soul to love as he had always imagined.

Love — and how to make it lasting – became his life’s highest calling—not just for himself, but others. In so doing, he has developed a powerful and effective methodology to make it “Safe to Love Again” for those who may have even given up hope.

Based on a field of study called Attachment Theory, the science of intimate relationships, Dr. Sayler’s insights have a profound and often times immediate impact. As a transformational relationship mentor, he helps people re-write the rules for love in their brains.

He empowers singles to reclaim their rights for a full soulmate relationship. With couples, he helps resolve their conflicts and differences so they can have the love they dream about.

Because of his innovative new approach that rewires brains for secure love, singles and couples experience deep, lasting shifts that happen in easy, natural ways. Some therapists are saying his new approach will ‘change the way therapists do therapy.’

The author of Safe to Love Again: How to Release the Pain of Past Relationships and Create the Love You Deserve, Dr. Salyer also offers experiential, interactive programs through his Safe to Love Again™ Workshop, and Extraordinary Couples™ and Extraordinary Singles™ Retreats. He is also a highly sought after guest on various podcasts, TV and radio shows such as The Aware Show on Hay House Radio and Coast to Coast AM.


Safe to Love Again book by Dr. Gary Salyer


“If you can see that the real enemy and the problem is the pattern and not the partner, you can become teammates. And when you’re teammates, then you can work the problem instead of work each other.”  –  Dr. Gary Salyer


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